To speak ill of somebody who is not near is an unpleasant habit and many people indulge in this to get popular. While gossiping, the center of the chat can be you and there can be negative chats that may very quickly shift to a lie. The great minds generally discuss ideas and the average minds normally discuss events while the small minds almost always discuss people.
There are bad-mouthers everywhere whether it is your office or your family or in your friend’s circles. You may find people who insult others even if the person is a close friend or a close member of the family, or a close neighbor. Some people want to be in the limelight by sharing inept, stupid and hypocritical remarks about someone.
Bad-mouthers always exist and they are members of a social species that believes letting other people down can be the ultimate way to draw satisfaction. You being a member of the group that values trust, altruism, and agreeableness, may find these backbiters intolerable. The best way to counter such types of negative campaigns is to continue doing your good job and let the talking to others.
What are the basic elements of bad-mouthing?
Bad-mouthing has a socially strategic foundation and that is to let others down and to create an unwelcome environment. If you find somebody insulting other people, you better keep away from such a company as next time you may find yourself as the target.
How badmouth people exist?
Badmouth people can influence the social outcomes by providing exciting negative news about any person and it can become the scoop news that spreads rapidly. These people can get success in various domains as people often like to get some sort of interesting news. There are a few important factors that make badmouthing strategy successful as a social strategy.
Speaking ill of others can be the route to social power:
A person who is adept in badmouthing can gain social power quite easily by creating a fearful environment. It can be a waste of time and energy to mess with a badmouthing person and if you show signs of worry, the bad-mouthed person can capitalize it effectively. Bad-mouthed persons can exude in confidence each time a badmouthing event gets success and social applauds and the best way is to make a flight and not fight with such persons.
Leading social positions:
Bad-mouthers can often take leading positions by putting down others as a strategy. Once these people discover an easy way to get success, they always try to capitalize on it to move up the ladder. If you have a distaste for the badmouthed, you should focus on your job and try to quit the company of these people.
Better routes to success:
Kindly qualities, passion for good and authentic work, and creativity can create permanent positive impressions in the minds of people. The game that the bad-mouthed adopts may be short-lasting while if you pursue good work relentlessly, you can be at peace and achieve permanent success. You need to remember that more you talk with a bad-mouther; the more you will empower him.
